We’re a Brooklyn couple, 2 kids, married 14 years. We’ve always been solid, but like a lot of couples, our sex life fell into routine.
Bedtime got later and later, then it was just easier to scroll for twenty minutes and fall asleep. Date nights turned into logistics conversations about school pickup and who’s on drop-off Thursday. We still liked each other. We were still a good team. Something had just quietly gone missing in between.
We didn’t wake up one day and decide to fix it. It actually came up at a dinner party. A few couples, a few drinks in, and somehow we all ended up begrudgingly admitting we were dealing with some version of the same thing. Nobody wanted to say it first, but once someone did, it turned out everyone at the table was in the same boat. We went home that night actually wanting to talk about it, which hadn’t happened in a while.
We looked for something that could give us a nudge, a low-stakes way back into each other that didn’t feel like homework or couples therapy or a big Serious Conversation. We couldn’t really find it. Everything out there was either too clinical, too vague, or honestly, kind of cheesy.
A friend sent us the “yes, no, maybe” list, which had been making the rounds. It was designed as a conversation starter to gauge interest in different sex acts, but again, it was all conversation. We thought a similar thing built around prompts that actually got you having sex instead of talking about it, would be a really cool idea.
So that’s what we made.
The deck is 60 prompts split across three levels, from easy re-entry points to more adventurous ones, so you can move at your own pace instead of being thrown into the deep end. It’s built around action, not conversation. There are plenty of games out there designed to get you talking. We wanted something designed to get you doing.
We’re not sex therapists. We’re not experts. We’re just two people who’ve been together a long time, who fell into the same routine a lot of couples fall into, and who built the thing we wished existed. If it helps you find your way back to each other even a little, that’s the whole point.